some men and women are perfect maybe
some husbands and wives too
so what i am talking about may not include you
i am talking about "the Cave"
i first read about it in the book "men are from mars and women are from venus"
where it sums up that men need to go to "their Cave" to be alone so that they can function.
sounds kinda cool and mysterious...
not so
what this equates to in our society
is men that are addicted to video games, long drives, television, internet, tuning out, hotel rooms
because they need "space"
so maybe thats not so bad- and indeed it isn't
if your responsibilities are being met and maybe even aced
if your children and wife are content and calm
See my issue with this behavior is not the behavior itself (usually)
its just that its not fair
do men really think they are the only ones that need a "Cave" or a "Break"
every female i know needs this very thing- especially the moms
but heres the thing
she schedules her "Cave Break" at an appropriate time
when all of her responsibilities are complete
when all babies are sleeping
when laundry is done, dishes, bills, phone calls, meals
which never happens
so she never does this
....so husbands if you can find time in your busy day for a much needed break then by all means take it- but atleast be kind, and thankful and realize that it is a gift.
one wouldn't want to waste their life in the "Cave"
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